If any of you college students are like me, you are currently feeling the impending doom brought to upon by the next few weeks. Midterms… Stress levels are rising as chapters to read, applications to turn in, group projects, papers, studying, etc. accumulate in mountains of college lined paper and books. I apologize for not writing in a while…it has been a hot minute. But if you can’t tell by my lovely Game of Thrones meme above, I’ve been a little stressed out. This blog post is dedicated to reminding everyone that it’s okay to be overwhelmed, it’s okay not to know what to do with your life, and most of all, YOU’RE NORMAL!
As wonderful as fall is with it’s cooler weather, FOOTBALL SEASON, changing leaves, pumpkin flavored everything…. it’s probably the most stressful time of the year. First off, back to school is literally like “hey I know you had fun all summer but let’s start the year off with 10947198234 projects, a paper due Friday, and 27 pages of reading tonight for homework”. There was literally no transition between frolicking through Italy and having 3 papers and a test the week after I got back to Athen. I’m going to be real with y’all, getting adjusted back to the real world sucked (lol.). I can only imagine what my lil freshman babies are going through. Now that rush is over, it’s a mad scramble to find your friend groups, to find where you fit in in your sorority. That + not being used to college courses + wanting to maintain a social life is probably reeking havoc on y’all’s stress levels. It’s amazing how they still expect us to function.
But guess what. You have to remember that this is normal. You are not the only one going through this. It’s almost nice to know that everyone else is also feeling like a chicken running around with its head cut off. Not that I want to wish bad upon anyone, but honestly comparing stress levels is a great way to bond with your friends (@Taylor). We had a guest speaker at SK the other day and she said something that really stood out to me. She said “The prefrontal cortex, responsible for decision making and judgement, is not fully developed at 18. And admissions offices expect you to know what you want to do with the rest of your life? That’s crazy.” She made it clear that it was okay if you did know what you wanted to do. You know, you’re going to take classes in a subject that you think you want to do, and hate it. You’re going to have jobs in fields that you think you want to spend your whole life in, and hate it. But, the best thing about today’s culture is that we have the ability to change what we don’t like about our lives. The beauty of it is that if you don’t like something about yourself, your life, your course of study, whatever…you can change it.
I called my mom the other day, hysterical of course, because I was so overwhelmed, so stressed out, that the only thing I had the ability to do was bawl my eyes out on the phone to her. I explained to her, and I know for a fact many of you feel the same way, that there were simply just not enough hours in the day for all the things I needed to do. I was overwhelmed about my major, my friends, and honestly everything in my life at that point seemed like a whirlwind of confusion, fueling on my stress. After I finally calmed down after a good bit, she was quiet on the other end of the phone. “I’m going to tell you something,” she said. “it is what it is”. We talked for a while longer, and you know sometimes you just need to talk it out with your mama to feel better, but that piece of advice stuck with me.
It is what it is. You can’t control the past, and the future hasn’t happened yet. I’m not saying damn it all and be completely reckless-everything has consequences-but it’s okay to let loose and go a lil crazy every once in a while. College, high school, whatever, these are supposed to be some of the best years of your life. Relax a little and be a kid! I know it’s stressful with my seniors in high school applying for college, or my seniors in college going out into the real world, but if you take a step back and slow down a bit, the world is a great grand big place full of opportunities for success.
At the end of the day, only you can decide what makes you happy. If selling paintings of seashells on the side of the road at the beach is what you want to do with your life, go for it. We need to get out of the mentality that material and money is the only thing that can make us happy. You need to find what gets your blood flowing and chase it. It shouldn’t be about how much you’re going to make when you get out of college. If you rather jump into oncoming traffic than read another chapter about finance…why are you majoring in it..? If you want to go to a lesser known school because they have an amazing film program but you’re worried about what other people will say….tell them to f off. It’s no one else’s life but your own.
We’re so wrapped up in the opinions and thoughts of others that we rarely make an effort to do things just because we want to. I know it’s easier said than done, but WHO CARES!? You don’t need to always have your shit together. You don’t need to always have a plan. It’s okay to get a little bit messy and not be 100% sure of the path you currently travel. It’s this grand amazing thing we call life. So what if things aren’t going exactly according to plan? Just take a deep breath and remember: it is what it is. You are allowed to be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time.
Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most
Make the most of everyday, because any day above ground is a good day! And lastly, if there is something or someone holding you back, let it go. If no one’s told you lately, I think you should go for it. Be spontaneous, and know that it’s okay to put yourself first for once. Only you decide what path to travel and at the end of the day, I hope it takes you somewhere you are truly happy.