Between recruitment, moving back to Athens, registering for classes, and kick starting College Counselors, I haven’t had a chance to sit down since I’ve been home. I spent less than 24 hours in Alpharetta…and 90% of that time was spent unpacking and repacking to get back to SK before recruitment started. And although I love my hometown, I couldn’t wait to get back to Athens to begin the next chapter!
Sweet home Sigma Kappa: I am lucky enough to be living in the house this year!! Even though I’m on the bottom bunk, it’s still better than the 8×10 shoe box I lived in last semester!!! It was so weird to me driving down Milledge and not turning into Baxter to go to the dorms (I’ll always love you @ my parking spot on the roof of west deck). The fact that there are brand new freshman living in ruha 505 weirds me out.
Today being the first day of recruitment had me thinking back to this time last year when I was a terrified freshman walking down Milledge. I had absolutely no idea what to expect with Rush and turns out I loved every minute of it. Rush taught me some important things that people tend to lose sight of when placed in uncomfortable and new situations. To all the girls going through recruitment now, take some advice from someone who was in your wedges a year ago:
- Be you. Right now you’re probably reading this and you’re like “no shit Madison”. But trust me, this something that everyone loses sight of. You need to always remember who you are, what you want, and what you stand for and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for what you believe in.
- …which brings me to my next point: don’t change who you are because you want to fit in with a “top tier”. Why would you want to be in a PC with a group of girls who don’t like you for you. You need to join a sorority that embraces your individuality, not one that tries to make you someone you’re not.
- Trust your gut, but go into recruitment with an open mind. Everyone talks. Everyone hears the tumors. It’s hard to go into rush without predisposed opinions based off the talk of the town. Only weird girls go this one, or this one is TFM’s hottest sorority. Doesn’t matter what other people think, if you’re happy there, you’re happy there.
- The “System” works itself out. Trust me. There was one sorority I told my gamma chi that I would pay money to never have to go back there ever again after the first day because I had such a horrible experience. I went back the next day and they ended up being #3 on my pref list. You end up where u belong.
- Shit happens. So what if you completely bombed your convo at your favorite house or you spilt a cup of water on one of the girls rushing you. It’s not the end of the world. Life goes on. Again. The system works itself out.
I think back on how much of a reality check freshman year was for me. You go into college thinking oh my god everyone looks like they’re having so much fun and they all have instantly their friend groups and everyone has their shit together. False. This was not true. ATTENTION!!! I am telling you everything you learn your first six weeks of college. Think of it as college 101, or how to get through midterms without having a mental breakdown :))).
First off, everyone is in the exact same boat as you. It doesn’t matter how many pictures they post on insta looking like they are having the time of their life. Yes they are having fun, but they’re just as stressed and overwhelmed as you.
Also, you’re not supposed to have any idea what you want to do….or what’s going on for that matter. As fruity as it sounds, college really is when you find yourself and who you want to be as a person. You really gotta do some soul searching. It’s a weird thought, but when winter break rolls around, your friends from home may not act the same. This isn’t a bad thing!! CHANGE IS GOOD!
You don’t have to go to every social, date night, mixer, whatever. At first, you may get some serious FOMO when all your friends are out on a Tuesday night. But trust me, your GPA, sanity, and body will thank you.
FRESHMAN 15 IS REAL! If you do not take care of yourself and make an effort to exercise, it will creep up on you. Power hour + cheap wine + frat parties + late nighting at Little Italy = getting home at thanksgiving and being able to qualify as a linebacker in the neighborhood Turkey Bowl. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
You’re going to grow apart from some people while growing closer to others. This is normal. This is natural. You may not even be best friends with the people you were closest to in high school. The people you’re buddy buddy with first semester may not even be who you hang out with second semester! Remember, everyone is growing and changing and learning too.
“So this is the part where I’m supposed to tell you it’s not scary. Well it is. But fear is natural. Fear is good. It just means you’re growing”. To my sweet lil freshman, I would give anything to be back in your shoes. Freshman year taught me so much as a person and I do believe that it changed me for the better. I learned how to be independent, to make decisions for me, and most of all, to be happy and comfortable in my own skin. Enjoy every minute of it because it flies by and next thing you know, you’re on the other side of the door screaming chants at nervous PNM’s and all you can think is was this really me a year ago?